You know how the year just sort of drags on until you hit the holidays and everything is full speed ahead? Yeah, we’re in December now. Holiday galore. Brace yourselves, winter is coming. Heh heh.
I hope everyone is well! I’ve got a couple recipe posts coming up among other things so I’ll have those out for you soon. In the meantime, enjoy December’s playlist. I didn’t include any Christmas/Holiday music but I’ll share some of my favorite playlists later.
Jimmy Eat World You With Me
Brent Cobb Solving Problems
Saint Motel Happy Accidents
Ivy All Things Good
Ocean Alley Holiday
Oh Wonder Drive
Maggie Rogers Dog Years
Michael Bublé, Meghan Trainor Someday
Cage The Elephant Trouble
Same Cooke You Send Me
Miike Snow, Mark Ronson Heart Is Full
pronoun snowed in // there’s no one new around you
Hello there. I bet you didn’t expect to see anything relating to politics or the state of our country on this little blog, did you? Given the increasing amount of hate, racism, and intolerance–it’s hard to ignore. It’s hard to not care. I have also never voiced my opinions because I don’t like confrontation or like to debate but I have always been respectful of anyone else’s opinion even if it didn’t align with my own. That in itself has led to the greater problem we face now. When Americans don’t have a discussion and let the chips fall where they may.
I’m usually not one to follow politics or even current events for that matter. I literally get summarized digests just so I’m up to date. Why? Because I am an entitled and selfish American. I admit it, I have tunnel vision when it comes to problems of my own country let alone the world. But you know what? I know I am not alone. I know there are others out there like myself. Those that follow just enough to get by and live out their daily lives helping others along the way.
I have to admit, I did not follow the recent presidential campaigns closely and treated it like all the others before. All I knew was that come Election Day, I had to go vote. That was my one job every four years and every four years I have made a commitment to have my voice heard. To give what little influence I could offer because despite what you say, my vote counts. Your vote counts. Our vote, it matters.
All of that, my silence, my selfishness, that stops now. I will no longer be a part of the population where apathy reigns. I have never before in my life been scared from the result of a newly elected president. I fear for myself, my family, my friends, my culture, and everyone else’s culture for that matter. What I fear the most though is the select group of individuals that our president-elect catered to. The ones wanting to create a White America. The ones that are so heartbroken over the loss of their candidate that they are intolerant to those around them. Bringing up memories of a time most of us have suppressed. Bringing up fear of the future for our children and their children’s children. A time when we just wanted to fit in.
I am an American, through and through. My color may not show it, but I was born and raised in this country. In case you were wondering, my parents are immigrants. Yes, immigrants. Productive American citizens in society but immigrants never the less. Those that half of America are no longer tolerant of. But lest we forget, without those immigrants, there would be no anime, Kung Fu, Halal Guys, or Chinese takeout.
Immigrants make up a large part of this country and it’s a great big mixing bowl of culture and that’s what I love about it. The various cultures all introduced through food, dance, music, and language. America is richer because of immigrants–culturally rich. This has always been the land of opportunity and why day after day, more immigrants seek refuge to chase the American dream.
This is a time when a nation is mourning and some even celebrating. A time where instead of going against each other, we should be with each other; united in our differences and beliefs.
Instead of spreading hatred, spread kindness. So on this Veteran’s day, I thank anyone who served in the military for your service, your compassion, and my freedom.
Google has just released their own smart speaker called Google Home as of November 4th, 2016 for $129 available through the Google Store, Target, Best Buy, and Walmart. In case you’re been living under a rock, a smart speaker is a voice-activated Wi-Fi speaker and assistant. You can ask it questions and tell it to do things like order more toilet paper or turn off the lights.
Photo Courtesy of Google
Photo Courtesy of Google
Photo Courtesy of Google
Amazon has already dominated the smart speaker market with their Amazon Echo. It was released back in 2014 for prime holders and released it to the general public around 2015. The Amazon Echo has had time to build partnerships throughout the years so they’re connected to most of the big name smart appliances out there. They’re also directly connected to your Amazon account so you can place orders just using your voice which has it’s pros and cons and can be scary for your wallet if you shop on Amazon often. I think to compete with the newly released Google Home, Amazon reduced the price of the Echo by 22% for a limited time bringing the usual $179.99 price down to $140 which is still $10 more expensive than Google Home.
Google Home has been in my home since her official release. She was easy to set up and blends in well with my decor. I got the white and slate fabric base for a softer and warmer feel. She’s learning new commands through IFTTT and learning more about me each day. Upon her release, her capabilities are limited to the current available compatible partners which are a fraction of what’s available to the Amazon Echo. She’s not intrusive and she’s pretty good at knowing what song you’d like to hear. She connects to Spotify and Pandora and will play your playlist on command. My only gripe is that I’m an Apple user using a Google device which is primarily geared toward Android users and devices so I don’t have access to a lot of the functions right off the bat.
Looks wise, I personally find that the Google Home is much more aesthetically pleasing than the Amazon Echo. The Amazon Echo looks like an air purifier and would probably cater more to people that really like tech looking, well, tech. The Google Home looks like an aromatherapy diffuser and looks like just a decor piece in your home, peaceful and seamless.
Do you have a Google Home or Amazon Echo? What do you think of the smart speakers?
Happy Autumn Equinox, fall is officially here! Where my basics at? ☕️🎃🍂🍁
What does fall mean to you? For me, it means transition. The leaves will change color, fall, and rest. Rest. I need that, so much. My life has always been on-the-go and always for someone else. My time isn’t always mine. You never really notice how precious time is until it’s slowly slipping away from you. All those times that you’ve put off for later, that time doesn’t get saved up in a vault somewhere that you can take out for future use. If you don’t use it, you lose it.
I’ve never noticed that when it comes to work, I hardly ever say, “no.” I don’t think I know what that even means. Maybe I’ll delay it by an hour or even up to a day depending on my work load. I ended up doing things that weren’t included in my job description and because my talents have been noticed, I’ve been requested for more projects. When so much is expected of you, it’s hard to say “no” and to disappoint.
I’m not saying say “no” to everything, just things that give you pause. Things that overwhelm you. “Yes,” can be powerful. It can open doors. It can give you new experiences, new friends, and new excitement. This is where you have to evaluate your own life, your own needs, and the needs of your family.
There comes a time in life where you have to stop bending backwards for everyone else and be able to stand up for yourself. Stand up for your time, your peace, your rest. Take this season to slow down and focus on what matters most–yourself, your family, your peace. Everything else can wait. Sit down next to a warm fireplace with your favorite book and your favorite beverage whether it be a pumpkin spice latte or tea.
For me, I just finished reading Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. I purchased my copy through Audible which is perfect for a long commute. Also, hearing Shauna read her own words was like hearing a friend tell your their life story. If you don’t already have an Audible account but have an Amazon Prime account, I suggest trying it–at least for the 3 month trial. You earn one credit a month to use on audio books and after the 3 month trial, you can figure out if it’s worth $14.95 a month for you or not.
I hinted in my last post that S and I will no longer be living together. We’re not uncoupling, we’re uncohabitating. Like what I did there, Gwyneth?
So the whole moving out after having lived with S for over a year has been weighing heavily on me. Is this the end of our relationship? Are we doomed?
There are definitely positives and negatives to moving out. We’ve discussed this at length and have assured each other that even though we will no longer be living together, we’ll continue dating and moving forward in our relationship. It does sound a little backwards but hear me out. At first, I personally didn’t like the idea but then I started to think of the pros and cons and it gave me confidence in our decision.
Financially, it is going to cost me more to move out.
I won’t have S to come home to and talk about our day with.
I’m going to start eating meals alone while Tyler begs for food.
I won’t wake up to S sleeping awkwardly upside down on his side of the bed.
I’ll be watching horror movies, alone, which is a bit scarier.
I will have my own space to decorate how I’d like.
I can grow as a person and establish my individuality.
I’ll have plenty of “me” time and a chance to get perspective of what I really want out of life.
We can actually go on dates and have a chance to miss each other.
Being more honest in my faith.
I haven’t moved quite yet but I am becoming more and more confident in our decision as the days pass. He’s always been supportive of me in many ways and was actually the driving force for me to go back to school. He’s been my crutch and I need to be more independent not in just my thoughts but just life overall. I need to be financially stable and take control of my budget. I recently signed up for YNAB so I’ll share my experiences on that later.
A lot has happened during the past few months and there are plenty of changes ahead. S and I have decided that some time apart would do us good. I’m glad to know that we’re not the only couples that have experienced these issues. It’s not that we don’t love each other, but we both need our space and some time to grow individually in order for us to make it in the long run as a couple.
Now having said that, I am on the market for a new mattress.
After being introduced to Casper during their Snooze Bar tour (which you can get a recap of here), I found that buying mattresses has become so much easier and even trendier. However, that was a year ago. Now there are even more internet mattress companies out there that offer similar services and quality such as Tuft & Needle, Purple, and Leesa.
Why internet mattress companies? Most of them offer 100 day trial period, generally good quality, marketed well so there are a bunch of reviews out there, quick and portable delivery which is great for a carless person like myself, and most importantly you can easily find a good mattress under $1000! Heck you could even upgrade to a king-sized bed for that price.
The thought of going to a traditional mattress store and laying on a bunch of beds like Goldilocks while having a sales person pressure you is not my idea of mattress shopping. Plus, are you really going to be able to tell if that mattress is the right fit for you after laying on it for five minutes while someone is talking your ear off?
I’m still doing my homework but if you have any advice or suggestions on getting a mattress, please let me know in the comments below or you can email me at hello[at]sundayscene[dot]com. I’d love to hear from you!
Lets take a break from the stresses of mattress shopping and take a look at some bed frames to house those said mattresses.
For the longest time, this has been my dream bed frame. It’s very chic. I’ve wanted it for so long and S has been completely against it. I like how modern yet versatile this bed frame is. The only concern I really have is the gap between the headboard and the base. From many manufacturer’s photos, you kind of notice a small gap. Not a complete deal breaker but enough to give pause.
I’ve been a huge fan of the “reclaimed wood” look. It can easily blend in with various styles. Plus, look at it. It’s masculine, clean, and sexy. Rugged, kind like a lumberjack. A ruggedly handsome lumberjack with a beard, flannel shirt, and hacking wood for your wood burning fireplace. Let me stop.
A bed frame for the eclectic girl in me. I’ve been obsessed with all things gold-toned lately and this has certainly caught my eye. I like the simplicity of the clean lines of the frame, the versatility, and you can even get creative like weave scarves and tapestries throughout the frame.
For the minimalist in me, a simple platform bed frame that offers support and still keep things tidy. Honestly, I don’t want a lot of furniture or clutter so I find myself constantly purging things every year. At least with a minimal bed frame I can have something nice and decorative like hanging a tapestry and go all out bohemian on the room. So many options.
This past summer I’ve been enjoying walks with my little family around Old Town Alexandria and getting Pop’s Old Fashioned Ice Cream before walking around the waterfront. That’s the best place for Pokemon Go! Yes, I do play (Go Team Valor!) and currently I’m on the hunt for Magikarps because the evolution struggle is real. Tyler loves the walk because he sees so many people, dogs, and it gets him out of the house.
School has been so busy. I haven’t really had time for anything else such as Sunday Scene. My downtime has been playing video games which is something that just relieves my stress. Yep, I’m 30-something and still playing video games. You can find out more about that here. Since fall semester is right around the corner and my work load will double, we’ll see how much time I even have for video games on top of school and my full time job.
Tyler has been doing well as can be. He’s turning 8 this month. I can’t believe my little baby is growing up so fast. It actually scares me that the older he gets the closer I am to losing him. He’s such a sweet boy (when he wants to be). His dad started this new routine of giving him a cookie before bed and now he won’t go to bed unless he gets the cookie first. You win some, you lose some.