Happy Autumn Equinox, fall is officially here! Where my basics at? ☕️🎃🍂🍁
What does fall mean to you? For me, it means transition. The leaves will change color, fall, and rest. Rest. I need that, so much. My life has always been on-the-go and always for someone else. My time isn’t always mine. You never really notice how precious time is until it’s slowly slipping away from you. All those times that you’ve put off for later, that time doesn’t get saved up in a vault somewhere that you can take out for future use. If you don’t use it, you lose it.
I’ve never noticed that when it comes to work, I hardly ever say, “no.” I don’t think I know what that even means. Maybe I’ll delay it by an hour or even up to a day depending on my work load. I ended up doing things that weren’t included in my job description and because my talents have been noticed, I’ve been requested for more projects. When so much is expected of you, it’s hard to say “no” and to disappoint.
I’m not saying say “no” to everything, just things that give you pause. Things that overwhelm you. “Yes,” can be powerful. It can open doors. It can give you new experiences, new friends, and new excitement. This is where you have to evaluate your own life, your own needs, and the needs of your family.
There comes a time in life where you have to stop bending backwards for everyone else and be able to stand up for yourself. Stand up for your time, your peace, your rest. Take this season to slow down and focus on what matters most–yourself, your family, your peace. Everything else can wait. Sit down next to a warm fireplace with your favorite book and your favorite beverage whether it be a pumpkin spice latte or tea.
For me, I just finished reading Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. I purchased my copy through Audible which is perfect for a long commute. Also, hearing Shauna read her own words was like hearing a friend tell your their life story. If you don’t already have an Audible account but have an Amazon Prime account, I suggest trying it–at least for the 3 month trial. You earn one credit a month to use on audio books and after the 3 month trial, you can figure out if it’s worth $14.95 a month for you or not.
I hinted in my last post that S and I will no longer be living together. We’re not uncoupling, we’re uncohabitating. Like what I did there, Gwyneth?
So the whole moving out after having lived with S for over a year has been weighing heavily on me. Is this the end of our relationship? Are we doomed?
There are definitely positives and negatives to moving out. We’ve discussed this at length and have assured each other that even though we will no longer be living together, we’ll continue dating and moving forward in our relationship. It does sound a little backwards but hear me out. At first, I personally didn’t like the idea but then I started to think of the pros and cons and it gave me confidence in our decision.
Financially, it is going to cost me more to move out.
I won’t have S to come home to and talk about our day with.
I’m going to start eating meals alone while Tyler begs for food.
I won’t wake up to S sleeping awkwardly upside down on his side of the bed.
I’ll be watching horror movies, alone, which is a bit scarier.
I will have my own space to decorate how I’d like.
I can grow as a person and establish my individuality.
I’ll have plenty of “me” time and a chance to get perspective of what I really want out of life.
We can actually go on dates and have a chance to miss each other.
Being more honest in my faith.
I haven’t moved quite yet but I am becoming more and more confident in our decision as the days pass. He’s always been supportive of me in many ways and was actually the driving force for me to go back to school. He’s been my crutch and I need to be more independent not in just my thoughts but just life overall. I need to be financially stable and take control of my budget. I recently signed up for YNAB so I’ll share my experiences on that later.
A lot has happened during the past few months and there are plenty of changes ahead. S and I have decided that some time apart would do us good. I’m glad to know that we’re not the only couples that have experienced these issues. It’s not that we don’t love each other, but we both need our space and some time to grow individually in order for us to make it in the long run as a couple.
Now having said that, I am on the market for a new mattress.
After being introduced to Casper during their Snooze Bar tour (which you can get a recap of here), I found that buying mattresses has become so much easier and even trendier. However, that was a year ago. Now there are even more internet mattress companies out there that offer similar services and quality such as Tuft & Needle, Purple, and Leesa.
Why internet mattress companies? Most of them offer 100 day trial period, generally good quality, marketed well so there are a bunch of reviews out there, quick and portable delivery which is great for a carless person like myself, and most importantly you can easily find a good mattress under $1000! Heck you could even upgrade to a king-sized bed for that price.
The thought of going to a traditional mattress store and laying on a bunch of beds like Goldilocks while having a sales person pressure you is not my idea of mattress shopping. Plus, are you really going to be able to tell if that mattress is the right fit for you after laying on it for five minutes while someone is talking your ear off?
I’m still doing my homework but if you have any advice or suggestions on getting a mattress, please let me know in the comments below or you can email me at hello[at]sundayscene[dot]com. I’d love to hear from you!
Lets take a break from the stresses of mattress shopping and take a look at some bed frames to house those said mattresses.
For the longest time, this has been my dream bed frame. It’s very chic. I’ve wanted it for so long and S has been completely against it. I like how modern yet versatile this bed frame is. The only concern I really have is the gap between the headboard and the base. From many manufacturer’s photos, you kind of notice a small gap. Not a complete deal breaker but enough to give pause.
I’ve been a huge fan of the “reclaimed wood” look. It can easily blend in with various styles. Plus, look at it. It’s masculine, clean, and sexy. Rugged, kind like a lumberjack. A ruggedly handsome lumberjack with a beard, flannel shirt, and hacking wood for your wood burning fireplace. Let me stop.
A bed frame for the eclectic girl in me. I’ve been obsessed with all things gold-toned lately and this has certainly caught my eye. I like the simplicity of the clean lines of the frame, the versatility, and you can even get creative like weave scarves and tapestries throughout the frame.
For the minimalist in me, a simple platform bed frame that offers support and still keep things tidy. Honestly, I don’t want a lot of furniture or clutter so I find myself constantly purging things every year. At least with a minimal bed frame I can have something nice and decorative like hanging a tapestry and go all out bohemian on the room. So many options.
This past summer I’ve been enjoying walks with my little family around Old Town Alexandria and getting Pop’s Old Fashioned Ice Cream before walking around the waterfront. That’s the best place for Pokemon Go! Yes, I do play (Go Team Valor!) and currently I’m on the hunt for Magikarps because the evolution struggle is real. Tyler loves the walk because he sees so many people, dogs, and it gets him out of the house.
School has been so busy. I haven’t really had time for anything else such as Sunday Scene. My downtime has been playing video games which is something that just relieves my stress. Yep, I’m 30-something and still playing video games. You can find out more about that here. Since fall semester is right around the corner and my work load will double, we’ll see how much time I even have for video games on top of school and my full time job.
Tyler has been doing well as can be. He’s turning 8 this month. I can’t believe my little baby is growing up so fast. It actually scares me that the older he gets the closer I am to losing him. He’s such a sweet boy (when he wants to be). His dad started this new routine of giving him a cookie before bed and now he won’t go to bed unless he gets the cookie first. You win some, you lose some.
I’m sure I’ve mentioned theSkimm a couple times in previous blog posts. I’m terrible when it comes to current events. I have a short attention span and frankly I don’t like the way some media outlets portray the news. However, with that being said, I still want to be kept in the loop.
My friend had introduced me to theSkimm, which was founded by Danielle Weisberg and Carly Zakin when they left their full-time jobs at NBC to launch the daily newsletter that I’ve read every weekday morning since. The newsletter is a summary of today’s current events, easily digested for my morning commute. Now I can keep up with conversations around the office.
While I love their service, I wondered how they were staying afloat since the newsletter is free. It’s not just one person skimming the news for you but a team. Then I heard that they were coming out with an app, Skimm Ahead. Although the actual newsletter is free, the app is subscription-based. I was a little apprehensive at first but I will definitely support something that I truly enjoy.
In addition to their daily Skimms, they also have integrated events that works in conjunction with your calendar so you know when the Euro 2016 kicks off (it’s June 10th), Father’s Day reminders, and even important dates like this month is LGBT Pride Month!
I’ve tried so many different types of skincare from drugstore brands to department brands. Skincare is not cheap. So I’ll start by telling you a little about my skin. I’ve had acne since I was in my preteens up until now in my 30s. I wish I had beautiful clear skin but the harsh reality is that I don’t. I’ve been left with hyperpigmentation and the occasional breakouts. I have oily combination skin, my t-zone is usually dry and cheeks are fairly oily. There are times were my face is completely reversed. My skin is a rebel and just doesn’t seem tamable. I can’t even recall how many different chemicals (via products) I’ve placed on my skin just to remedy or even cover up an issue.
I’ve recently changed up my diet a little and I started using more natural products. I became more conscious when Tyler would give me kisses on my face and thought about what kind of chemicals he may ingest just from licking me. I know he won’t die from it but it still made me nervous. So I decided to look for natural products with minimal ingredients that would get the job done as well as be environmentally safe at the same time.
Thayers Alcohol-Free Rose Petal Witch Hazel Toner
Alcohol-free toner to balance your skin and prep it for moisture. This is a simple formula that tones your skin and gives you an extra clean feeling without any harsh stinging. The smell is also pleasant.
Apple Cider Vinegar & Aztec Secret Indian Healing Clay
A natural facial mask that can do wonders for your skin. You mix up raw apple cider vinegar with the Indian Healing Clay and leave it on your face for about half an hour for a deep clean. Both products together create an antimicrobial deep cleansing mask to help with acne.
100% Pure Organic Coffee Bean Caffeine Eye Cream
This eye cream is all-natural and vegan. It smells amazing and is very absorbent. It’s turbo-charged with caffeine from coffee and green tea to provide an instant pick-me-up.
Herbivore Botanicals Bamboo Charcoal Bar Soap
I’ve been looking for a simple face soap that doesn’t strip my skin and leave it feeling parched. I came across this bar soap which is gentle enough for daily use. It’s great for oily, combination, and acne-prone skin.
Herbivore Botanicals Lapis Facial Oil
This is not your traditional cream or gel moisturizer. It’s oil. Let that sink in for a moment. It’s weird right? Why would you want to add more oil to an already oily face? The facial oil contains less fillers instead of being high in water and in effective ingredients.
I’m still on the search for a good natural sunscreen for my face. Let me know if you run into any!
Disclaimer: This post is not a sponsored post. All thoughts and opinions are my own.
Have you ever noticed how the state of your closet is closely related to your outlook on life? No? Maybe it’s just me.
I recently did a purge in my closet. I got rid of clothes I haven’t worn in a year, clothes I can’t fit into and clothes that were an instant-trend that are no longer relative. It’s been a long time coming. Most of what is in my closet is new due to my recent weight gain over the last couple years. Depressing, I know.
I opted for things that I can get multiple wear out of and wouldn’t cringe about wearing a year later.
It’s been a relief to not see my closet overflow with clothes from yesteryear. It was a depressing trip to the closet not being able to find anything to wear in the horde of clothes I owned. It was stressful and led to many bad moods of “waking up on the wrong side of the bed”.
Now it takes me a few minutes. Am I feeling bloated? Maybe I should wear a jacket. Is it warm outside? Maybe a dress! Right now my closet consists of hues of blue and white but I’m going to build up more on that later. I am also getting a lot more long sleeve dress shirts and blouses since I’m trying to dress a little more professionally and not have my tattoos be so visible.
Another tip that I have is to try the Konmari method. Hey guys, I’m slowly adulting one day at a time!